5 Ways to Tell if Your Spouse is LYING, Body Language Expert Janine Driver

The podcast begins with an introduction to the day's topic: identifying if a spouse is lying. The guest, Janine Driver, is an internationally recognized speaker and New York Times best-selling author. She has written two books, 'You Can't Lie to Me' and 'What You Say.' She has made numerous TV appearances and is ranked as a top body language professional. The hosts, Rebecca Song and Susan Guthrie, express their excitement to discuss the topic of detecting lies, especially in relationships, with Janine. They also mention a recent event where they met Janine and shared their experiences on body language and negotiation.

Janine Driver explains that changes in tone and pitch are common when someone is lying, with 85% of deceptive individuals exhibiting such changes. She uses examples from interviews, such as Britney Spears' interview with Matt Lauer before her divorce and Lance Armstrong's press conference, to illustrate how a shift in tone can be a sign of deception. She also discusses the concept of 'gaslighting,' where the liar attempts to make the questioner doubt their own sanity by becoming angry or dismissive.

The discussion moves to verbal cues that can indicate lying, such as the use of phrases like 'I know you think' or 'let me tell you.' Janine shares an anecdote involving Donny Deutsch to illustrate how these cues can be detected. She also talks about 'character testimony,' where the liar refers to what others would say about them to bolster their credibility. Examples include statements like 'just ask my friends' or 'my boss will tell you.'

Janine explains how power dynamics in a relationship can influence the behavior of a liar. She states that those in power focus on the rewards of lying rather than the consequences, which can lead to an increase in cognitive thinking and a decrease in stress hormones like cortisol. This can result in the liar displaying positive emotions and being able to concoct new lies quickly. She also discusses the manipulation tactics used by those in power, such as convincing the other person to get rid of a lawyer or mediator.

The conversation continues with Janine describing contempt, which is a sign of moral superiority often displayed by manipulators in power. She also talks about 'ventilating' gestures, which are self-touch behaviors that indicate increased stress and anxiety. Additionally, she explains how nodding yes while performing a 'pacifier' gesture, such as rubbing one's arm, can signal disagreement despite the apparent agreement through nodding.

Janine emphasizes the importance of observing baseline behaviors and changes in body language as indicators of potential deception. She discusses various behaviors, such as 'turtleing,' where a person becomes smaller to avoid attention, and the 'belly button rule,' which suggests a person's true feelings based on the direction they orient their body. Janine also provides advice on how to react to these cues and stresses the importance of asking questions rather than making assumptions.

The podcast concludes with Janine sharing her resources for those interested in learning more about body language and deception detection. She mentions her virtual training platform, which offers on-demand content, and her regular live sessions on Facebook called 'Celebrity Lie-Detector.' She also invites listeners to follow her on social media and to visit her website, bluestreaktraining.com, for more information and tools to improve decision-making and protect personal interests.