The Power to Design a Life You Love | Hassan Akmal | TEDxColumbiaUniversity

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25 May 202129:33
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TLDRThe speaker recounts pivotal life experiences showing that success alone does not lead to fulfillment or happiness. He shares five 'secrets' to career and life mastery: resilience to overcome challenges; focus and vision to set your direction; purpose beyond yourself; love as the heart of mastery; and mindset as a conscious choice. Mastering these, he argues, provides true freedom to live life to the fullest and make a difference. The talk is a call to avoid complacency, to take ownership and consciously design our path, not leaving it to chance or others.

Takeaways
  • πŸ˜€ Success alone is not the purpose of life - happiness and fulfillment matter more
  • 🧠 Mindset is a choice - adopt a positive mindset to master your career and life
  • πŸ’– Love is the heart of career and life mastery
  • 🌟 Follow your purpose to design a life you love
  • 😎 Focus and clarity lead to career and life vision
  • 🦾 Build resilience to transform challenges into growth
  • πŸ”­ Continually calibrate your career and life lenses
  • ✨ Fulfillment comes from within, not external success
  • πŸ’‘ Uncover your passion and purpose to change the world
  • πŸš€ You are the author of your story - take control and live life to the fullest
Q & A
  • What experience caused the speaker to reevaluate his perspective on success leading to happiness?

    -In 2003, while helping serve 5 million refugees on the Afghanistan border, the speaker had a machine gun held to his back. This near kidnapping experience changed his life forever and made him realize success alone does not lead to happiness.

  • What is the limit to how much money continues to increase emotional well-being?

    -Research shows that household income strongly correlates with emotional well-being up to about $75,000 per year. After $75,000, the marginal benefit of more money decreases, hitting zero around $200,000.

  • What is the difference between happiness and fulfillment according to the speaker?

    -Happiness is external, based on what happens, while fulfillment is internal and more meaningful. Success brings happiness but not necessarily fulfillment.

  • What is the concept of ikigai and how does it relate to purpose?

    -Ikigai is a Japanese concept meaning "reason for being." It represents the intersection of what you love, what the world needs, what you are good at, and what you can be rewarded for. Finding this sweet spot leads to purpose.

  • What are the 5 secrets to career and life mastery according to the speaker?

    -The 5 secrets are: 1) Resilience 2) Focus 3) Purpose 4) Love 5) Mindset.

  • How did the speaker's father teach confidence and mindset to his children?

    -He had them recite God's attributes while passing date seeds between bowls, programming their minds through this spiritual ritual to build self-confidence and mindset.

  • What does the speaker say is the foundation of our existence and heart of career/life mastery?

    -Love. Love in all its forms is essential for both fulfillment and career/life mastery.

  • What motto did the couple who built the Havencrest Castle live by?

    -"Semper Nose" - Latin for "Always Us", representing their belief that marriage transcends this life.

  • How does the speaker relate balancing career and life vision to music?

    -Your life path has ups and downs like a musical composition. You need to align the major and minor elements, just as harmony requires notes to be properly spaced.

  • What does the speaker say is the privilege that allows one to pursue purpose?

    -Freedom. The freedom to pursue your purpose uplifts you, though many take it for granted.

Outlines
00:00
πŸ˜€ Breaking the misconceptions of success

The paragraph discusses the speaker's perceptions of success and how it changed over time. Initially they equated success with happiness but realized after a traumatic experience that success alone is not fulfilling. The culture promotes success too much but depression is still common, indicating success is not the purpose of life.

05:00
πŸ˜€ Finding fulfillment through self-discovery

The speaker embarked on a journey of self-discovery through travel and writing to find meaning beyond success. This involved self-compassion, understanding one's thoughts and emotions, and defining success for oneself.

10:10
πŸ˜€ Achieving mastery through focus and vision

The speaker emphasizes the importance of focus and having a clear vision that integrates career and life. This unified vision should guide you towards your purpose like a North star. Regular reflection and recalibration is key.

15:10
πŸ˜€ Discovering your purpose

Purpose gives meaning and motivates us. It manifests through moments of truth and aligning to your passions. The Japanese concept of ikigai involving self-reflection helps uncover your purpose.

20:12
πŸ˜€ Love as the foundation

Love in all its forms softens our hearts and is key to fulfillment. It should be the process, not the outcome. A lifelong promise of love gave meaning to one couple's life.

25:15
πŸ˜€ Cultivating the right mindset

Mindset is the ultimate key to mastery. The speaker's father instilled confidence and passion in them through spiritual practice. With resilience, purpose, focus, love and mindset, you can design a life you love.

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Keywords
πŸ’‘fulfillment
Fulfillment refers to a sense of meaning, purpose, and satisfaction in one's career and life. The script contrasts it with mere success, arguing that fulfillment comes from within while success depends on external factors. It relates deeply to the video's message about designing a life you love and mastery of a balanced and holistic existence.
πŸ’‘resilience
Resilience means the capacity to recover and persist through life's difficulties. The script highlights how the deepest challenges can be intensely transformative if one remains resilient. For instance, the speaker's near-kidnapping in Afghanistan helped reshape his priorities.
πŸ’‘focus
Focus refers to training one's mindset and vision to align to a clear purpose and direction. The script uses visual metaphors like binoculars to demonstrate the ongoing recalibration focus requires. It argues focus is key to career mastery.
πŸ’‘purpose
Purpose means a driving reason for being that aligns to one's passions and strengths. The script emphasizes it emerges through self-inquiry and moments of inspiration, guiding the motivation to design a fulfilling life.
πŸ’‘love
Love refers here to the heart's central place in existence and mastery of life. More than success or other external conditions, the script argues that devotion to love enables sight, freedom, resilience, and fulfillment.
πŸ’‘mindset
Mindset means the mental perspective through which we see the world. The talk concludes that consciously cultivating a positive mindset leads to self-mastery and the power to design the life we want.
πŸ’‘mastery
Mastery refers to exceptional skill and control in any practice. The script continually integrates the mastery of career, life, self, skills, mind, etc into one holistic concept essential for fulfillment.
πŸ’‘freedom
Freedom means living life on your own terms to pursue your purpose. The script sees freedom as the prime condition for designing a fulfilling career and life.
πŸ’‘perspective
Perspective means one's outlook and way of seeing life. The script stresses that consciously shifting perspectives allows transformative growth (e.g. from self-criticism to self-compassion).
πŸ’‘happiness
Happiness indicates a state of joy, contentment and positivity. While essential, the script argues it follows from within and from living by your purpose, not mere external success.
Highlights

We have shown that reinforcement learning can be used successfully to train an AI agent to play Atari games at a superhuman level.

The deep Q-network algorithm we developed significantly outperforms previous reinforcement learning methods on the Atari domain.

Our model was able to achieve over 75% of the human score on more than half of the games tested, and over 100% on some games like Breakout.

The agent learned effective policies using only the raw pixels and score as input, with no game-specific features.

We found that experience replay and target networks were critical to stability and performance of deep Q-learning.

The agent was able to learn successful policies even from only random exploration rather than human demonstrations.

Our results show deep reinforcement learning can scale to problems considered intractable only a few years ago.

This approach has the potential to impact many challenging domains such as robotics, natural language processing, and healthcare.

Future work should explore extensions like recurrence and structured outputs to tackle more complex tasks.

The ability for algorithms to learn from raw sensory input opens up many exciting avenues for applying deep RL to real-world problems.

End-to-end training from pixels to actions shows the promise of deep reinforcement learning for automated control policies.

Our results demonstrate deep neural networks are effective function approximators for reinforcement learning.

This work highlights how deep learning and reinforcement learning can be combined successfully.

The stability and performance improvements of our algorithm open up reinforcement learning to a wide range of challenging tasks.

Overall, this work represents a significant step towards developing intelligent, adaptive agents that can learn complex behaviours.

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