Things Guys Do that are Instant Turn Offs (6 fixes)

The video script starts with the speaker, Stirling Cooper, introducing himself as a successful former male companion and discussing the importance of not turning women off. He emphasizes that many men inadvertently sabotage their relationships with women due to nervousness or lack of confidence, which leads to poor behaviors. He suggests that men are born 'perfect' but are later burdened by societal misinformation and bad beliefs that need to be shed. The first behavior to address is neediness, which he defines as a lack of options and an unwillingness to walk away. He advises against being overly polite or desperate to please, and instead recommends taking risks and displaying confidence as a way to show non-neediness.

The second paragraph delves into the negative traits of trying too hard to please women and incongruency between thoughts, words, and actions. Stirling explains that being overly eager to please can lead to a woman feeling pressured and is generally unattractive. He contrasts this with the behavior of a man who leads confidently, making decisions and not seeking constant validation from the woman. Incongruency, or misalignment of thoughts, words, and actions, is also highlighted as a turn-off because it signals insecurity and lack of confidence. Stirling stresses the importance of congruency to project a sense of leadership and security.

In the third paragraph, Stirling addresses the issue of indecisiveness, which he argues is a feminine trait and unattractive in men. He advises men to be decisive, especially during dates, by having a plan and not seeking a woman's approval for every decision. He also touches on the misconception that women do not like dominant men, clarifying that leading and being decisive are attractive masculine traits. Stirling warns against the common mistake of men trying to be overly agreeable and emphasizes the importance of having and expressing one's own opinions.

The fourth paragraph focuses on the fine line between being self-centered and showing genuine interest in the woman. Stirling points out that while it's important to let a woman talk about herself, men should also share stories about themselves without overt bragging. He suggests using storytelling as a means to subtly reveal positive traits and characteristics. He also stresses the importance of asking questions and showing curiosity about the woman, which is attractive, as opposed to only talking about oneself.

In the final paragraph, Stirling discusses the importance of disagreeing with a woman occasionally to show that one has a backbone and is not simply trying to manipulate their way into a relationship. He cautions against discussing sensitive topics like religion or politics on first dates and recommends saving such conversations for after a more intimate connection has been established. Stirling emphasizes that having your own opinions and being willing to express them respectfully is a sign of strength and independence, which are attractive qualities to women.