Why So Many Women Think Men Are Trash | Matthew Hussey
TLDRThe video script discusses the complexities of online dating, highlighting the varying intentions of users and the impact on women's perceptions of men. It emphasizes the importance of decisiveness and clear communication for men seeking genuine relationships. Suggestions include initiating phone calls or coffee dates to show intent and choosing non-traditional settings for first dates to build rapport naturally. The speaker also advises against listing personal baggage on dating profiles, instead advocating for a playful and light-hearted approach to showcase personality.
Takeaways
- 😀 Online dating is now a significant part of how relationships begin, with 40-60% of them starting online.
- 🔍 Many men are on dating apps for casual hookups, which can misalign expectations with women looking for serious relationships.
- 🚫 Bad behavior from men on dating apps, such as hiding behind the screen, can skew women's perception of men in general.
- 🧐 It's important for men to show decisiveness and intent when communicating on dating apps, rather than just exchanging messages without progressing.
- 📞 Suggesting activities like getting on the phone or meeting up for a quick coffee can demonstrate a genuine interest in getting to know someone.
- 🤔 Choosing non-traditional first date locations, like a park bench or a bar, can create a more relaxed and natural interaction.
- 🎢 Engaging in activities like walking or riding a roller coaster can help build rapport and comfort without the pressure of a formal date setting.
- 🛑 Emphasizing safety and comfort for women by choosing public and well-lit locations for dates is crucial.
- 🕒 Having short dates, like a 30-minute coffee meet-up, can lower the stakes and make it easier for both parties to connect without pressure.
- 📝 In dating profiles, 'show, don't tell' is key; instead of listing qualities or desires, demonstrate them through personal anecdotes or unique statements.
- 🌟 A well-crafted dating profile can subtly communicate intentions and personality, avoiding the need to explicitly state preferences or deal-breakers.
Q & A
What percentage of relationships now begin online according to the transcript?
-Between 40 and 60 percent of relationships now begin online.
What is the common caricature of men using dating apps mentioned in the script?
-The common caricature is that a significant number of men use dating apps primarily for sex rather than seeking serious relationships.
How does the behavior of some men on dating apps affect women's perception of men in general?
-The bad behavior of some men, such as hiding behind the screen and misaligning intentions, can skew women's perception of men, leading them to believe there are no decent men.
What advice is given for men who want to show they are on a dating app for the right reasons?
-Men should exhibit decisiveness, suggest meeting up for a phone call or coffee, and choose activities that allow for natural interaction and progression of the relationship.
What is the recommended approach for a first date according to the transcript?
-The transcript suggests activities like going for a walk, sitting at a bar instead of a table, or doing something that allows for facing away from each other and turning to talk, which can build rapport and comfort.
Why is it suggested to not be afraid of having a short date?
-Having a short date can lower the stakes for both parties, making it easier to meet up without the pressure of committing to a long evening together.
What is the importance of 'show, don't tell' in dating profiles as per the transcript?
-The importance of 'show, don't tell' is to demonstrate personality traits or desires in a way that is engaging and authentic, rather than just stating them.
What is an example of 'show, don't tell' given in the transcript for a dating profile?
-An example given is a woman who expressed her desire for a family by sharing a relatable and light-hearted disappointment about her future kids not experiencing Blockbuster Video.
What is the significance of the transcript mentioning the woman who communicated her status as a single mother?
-The significance is to illustrate how one can communicate personal circumstances, like being a single mother, in a way that is both flirtatious and light, rather than presenting it as a burden.
What is the connection between the transcript's discussion on dating and the promotion of the product 'Element'?
-The connection is that the discussion on dating provides a context for the promotion of 'Element' as a product that can be part of a healthy lifestyle, which is important for those seeking relationships.
Outlines
😕 Online Dating Misalignment and Behavior Issues
The speaker discusses the prevalence of online dating and the significant percentage of relationships that now begin on the internet. They highlight the common perception among women that a large number of men use dating apps primarily for casual encounters rather than seeking serious relationships. This misalignment can lead to negative experiences and skewed perceptions of men's intentions. The speaker also touches on the negative behavior exhibited by some men online, hiding behind the anonymity of the screen, and how this affects women's views on dating and men in general. They suggest that decisiveness and clear communication can help men stand out and convey their genuine intentions in the online dating space.
💬 Effective Communication and First Date Strategies
This paragraph focuses on strategies for men who are struggling with online dating, offering advice on how to effectively communicate their intentions and value. The speaker emphasizes the importance of decisiveness in progressing from online communication to meeting in person. They suggest being proactive in suggesting phone calls or short meet-ups, such as coffee, to show intent without appearing desperate. The speaker also recommends choosing non-traditional first date settings that allow for more natural interaction and comfort, such as sitting at a bar or going for a walk. They stress the importance of considering women's safety and the benefits of keeping the stakes low for initial dates, which can help build rapport and lead to longer-term connections.
📝 Show, Don't Tell: Crafting Engaging Dating Profiles
The speaker discusses the importance of 'show, don't tell' in creating engaging and effective dating profiles. They argue against simply listing qualities or desires, as this can lead to generic and uninteresting profiles. Instead, they advocate for showing personality and intentions through unique and personal anecdotes, such as the example of a woman who expressed her desire for children by lamenting the loss of the Blockbuster Video experience for her future kids. The speaker also shares examples of how to communicate personal circumstances, like being a single mother, in a light and engaging way, rather than as a burden. They suggest that the mindset and approach to one's own 'baggage' can be revealed through the words chosen in a dating profile.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Online dating
💡Dating apps
💡Misaligned expectations
💡Decisiveness
💡Texting
💡First date ideas
💡Viewer perception
💡Safety
💡Dating profile
💡Playful communication
💡Activation energy
Highlights
Online dating now initiates between 40 and 60 percent of relationships.
Women's experiences with online dating often involve dealing with men seeking casual encounters rather than serious relationships.
Some men's bad behavior on dating apps is attributed to the anonymity and lack of repercussions provided by the digital environment.
Women's perception of men may be skewed negatively due to the behavior of a significant proportion of men on dating apps.
Decent men may feel overlooked on dating apps due to the prevalence of men seeking casual encounters.
Men's online behavior may reflect their deeper attitudes towards women or a lack of understanding of the impact of their actions.
Men struggling with online dating should demonstrate decisiveness and avoid prolonged indecisiveness in communication.
Suggesting phone calls or quick meet-ups like coffee shows intent and can be an effective dating strategy.
Non-traditional date ideas, like sitting at a bar or walking, can facilitate more natural interactions.
Men should be mindful of women's safety and choose public, well-lit locations for dates.
Short dates can lower the stakes and make both parties feel more comfortable.
Online dating profiles should focus on 'showing, not telling' to effectively convey personality and intentions.
Creative examples in profiles, like mentioning Blockbuster Video, can reveal personality and desires subtly.
Avoid listing negative experiences or desires in dating profiles as it can create a negative impression.
Profiles that communicate personal information, like being a single mother, in a playful manner are more engaging.
The mindset and attitude towards one's own 'baggage' can be effectively communicated in a few words on a dating profile.
Element is introduced as a science-backed electrolyte drink with a no-nonsense approach and a partnership with Team USA weightlifting.
A special offer for a free sample pack of all eight flavors of Element with the first box purchase is promoted.
Transcripts
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