How to Deal with Rejection Sensitivity
TLDRThe video script discusses the concept of rejection sensitivity (RS) and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) in individuals with ADHD. It differentiates RSD, a term specific to the ADHD community but not recognized in the DSM, from RS, a broader psychiatric condition linked to ADHD. The script highlights the intense emotional pain and defensive reactions triggered by perceived rejection, its impact on social interactions, and coping strategies like the 4 R's to manage these emotions effectively.
Takeaways
- π€ Rejection sensitivity (RS) and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) are terms used in the ADHD community to describe intense reactions to perceived rejection.
- π§ RSD, coined by Dr. William Dodson, is not widely recognized as it's not in the DSM and lacks scientific research.
- π RS, however, is a recognized phenomenon in ADHD and other psychiatric conditions, and is backed by research.
- π₯ ADHD individuals often struggle with social preferences and friendships, leading to a history of rejection.
- π The pain of rejection sensitivity is very real, triggering intense emotional responses and defensive behaviors.
- π The 4 R's tool was developed to help manage RS: Recognize emotional state, Respond with appropriate strategies, Reflect on the situation, and Reframe thoughts.
- π Recognizing emotional intensity involves checking in with one's body for signs of heightened emotions.
- π¦ Responding strategically involves different actions depending on the level of emotional intensity: green (normal), yellow (heightened), or red (fight, flight, or freeze).
- π€― In the red zone, it's crucial to use practiced strategies for safety and to avoid making decisions or engaging in conflict.
- π Reflecting and reframing helps challenge initial thoughts that may be influenced by cognitive distortions and past experiences.
- π Working with a therapist and using resources like CBT and DBT workbooks can aid in managing and understanding RS.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video?
-The main topic of the video is rejection sensitivity (RS) and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) in individuals with ADHD.
Who created the term 'rejection sensitive dysphoria' and how does Dr. William Dodson define it?
-Dr. William Dodson created the term 'rejection sensitive dysphoria' and defines it as a triggered, wordless emotional pain that occurs after a real or perceived loss of approval, love, or respect.
Why might doctors be unfamiliar with RSD?
-Doctors might be unfamiliar with RSD because it is not included in the DSM, and there is a lack of scientific studies on the subject.
How is rejection sensitivity defined in the context of ADHD?
-Rejection sensitivity in the context of ADHD is defined as the tendency to anxiously expect, readily perceive, and intensely react to rejection.
What other psychiatric conditions are associated with rejection sensitivity?
-Rejection sensitivity is associated with several psychiatric conditions, including social anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and body dysmorphia.
What challenges do children with ADHD face in terms of social preference and friendships?
-Children with ADHD are often rated lower on social preference, are less well-liked, more often rejected, more likely to be designated 'non-friends' by their peers, and have fewer reciprocal friends, with up to 70% having no close friends by third grade.
How does rejection sensitivity affect an individual's behavior and decision-making?
-Rejection sensitivity can lead to people-pleasing, avoidance of situations where rejection is possible, and reluctance to ask for things like raises or invitations due to the fear of rejection.
What is the 4 Rβs tool created by Caroline Maguire and how does it help?
-The 4 Rβs tool is a strategy to help cope with rejection sensitivity by recognizing emotional intensity, responding with appropriate strategies, reflecting on the situation, and reframing thoughts to consider other explanations for perceived rejection.
What are some examples of strategies for dealing with heightened emotions in the green, yellow, and red zones?
-In the green zone, one can engage in situations with potential rejection or practice self-care. In the yellow zone, strategies like asking for clarification, focusing on breathing, or walking around can help. In the red zone, it's important to use practiced strategies that promote safety and calming, such as cuddling a pet or meditating.
How can cognitive distortions affect our perception of rejection?
-Cognitive distortions like emotional reasoning and personalization can lead us to incorrectly interpret situations as rejections, reinforcing our sensitivity and affecting how we anticipate and react to future situations.
What additional resources are suggested for individuals dealing with rejection sensitivity?
-Working with a therapist, using CBT and DBT workbooks, and referring to a printable reference card with the 4 Rs and personal strategies are suggested resources for dealing with rejection sensitivity.
Outlines
π€ Understanding Rejection Sensitivity in ADHD
This paragraph introduces the concept of rejection sensitivity and its impact on individuals with ADHD. It differentiates between 'rejection sensitive dysphoria' (RSD) and 'rejection sensitivity' (RS), explaining that RSD is a term specific to the ADHD community but not yet recognized in the DSM, while RS is a broader concept associated with various psychiatric conditions. The speaker shares personal experiences of intense sensitivity to rejection, highlighting the emotional and social challenges faced by those with ADHD. The paragraph emphasizes the validity of these experiences and the need for further research, despite the lack of scientific studies on RSD.
π Coping Strategies for Rejection Sensitivity
The second paragraph focuses on coping mechanisms for dealing with rejection sensitivity, as proposed by Caroline Maguire. It outlines the 4 R's strategy: Recognize emotional intensity, Respond with appropriate strategies, Reflect on the situation, and Reframe thoughts to avoid cognitive distortions. The speaker discusses the importance of understanding one's emotional state and suggests various techniques for managing heightened emotions, such as seeking clarification, breathing exercises, and physical activities. The paragraph also emphasizes the value of reflection and reframing to challenge initial thoughts of rejection and to develop healthier responses to potentially triggering situations.
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Keywords
π‘Rejection Sensitivity
π‘Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
π‘ADHD
π‘Emotional Regulation
π‘Social Anxiety
π‘Caroline Maguire
π‘4 Rβs
π‘Cognitive Distortions
π‘Therapy
π‘Self-Validation
π‘Social Skills
Highlights
Rejection sensitivity is a significant issue for individuals with ADHD.
Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is a term specific to the ADHD community, describing a triggered emotional pain after a perceived loss of approval.
RSD is not recognized in the DSM and lacks scientific research validation.
Rejection sensitivity (RS) is a broader term associated with various psychiatric conditions, including ADHD.
RS is linked to difficulties in emotional regulation and a history of repeated rejections.
Children with ADHD often face social rejection and may lack close friendships.
The speaker's personal experiences illustrate the impact of rejection sensitivity.
Rejection sensitivity can lead to intense emotional reactions and defensive behaviors.
The 4 Rβs tool was created to help cope with rejection sensitivity.
Recognizing one's emotional state is the first step in the 4 Rβs strategy.
Responding with appropriate strategies depends on the intensity of emotions.
In the green zone, engage in situations with potential rejection or practice self-care.
In the yellow zone, use calming strategies to maintain control and prevent escalation.
In the red zone, employ safety strategies until emotions are manageable.
Reflect and reframe to challenge initial thoughts and cognitive distortions.
Working with a therapist can be beneficial for managing rejection sensitivity.
Social skills can be learned to reduce the risk of future rejections.
The speaker is actively working on self-validation and addressing past rejections.
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